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"I always try to lead with my curiosity and if there's something I'm passionate about, to see where it takes me, to explore it without any preconceived notions, without any expectation of results, without saying it has to be this way." - musical prodigy on the pod this week (see below) Welcome to this week's slightly disjointed newsletter. Let's dive in: A maybe somehow related point on acknowledging the humanity of others... LET GO OF THE OUTCOME And finally some wisdom from last week's podcast guest Grace Nikae that I can't stop thinking about. Some context... Grace Nikae began touring internationally as a concert pianist at 13 years old... (I was going to ask her the definition of "child prodigy" and then found out she'd been on TV as a 3 y.o. solving algebraic equations and reading from a Mark Twain novel, so checks out. She started playing piano at nine months!) Grace has done many incredible, seemingly unrelated things things e.g. after leaving her international solo career at 30, she wrote 8 best selling novels under a pseudonym (!!), taught herself to code and somehow ended up as marketing director of a 5 star hotel in Hawaii, started a TikTok on leadership and grew her audience to 80k followers. She currently works as a CMO and brand advisor in NYC. (Our conversation though of course, is really about the human story underneath all of that. Loneliness, suffering, isolation. How as a child she just wanted to be "normal". Her abusive father and how she came to forgive her mother, what triggered the decision to leave music, the heartbreaking loss of a pet, etc.) At the beginning of the conversation I asked her what her attitude was to succeeding in all these seemingly unrelated areas. This is what she said (and yes I need to stop saying like): So I can, like, throw myself into this and then it can evolve, which I think that's something that keeps so many of us stuck. Like what's my path going going to be in 10 years from now? And then you kind of don't even start. GN: Yeah. Because we get, you know, we're a culture in a society that gets very locked into the idea of results and outcomes. And so if we're bound by that kind of thinking, then it becomes very difficult to start something new because you're already overthinking about, well, what if it doesn't work? What if it doesn't go the way that I want? What if I, you know, and what if, what if, what if, what if? And and I've been very fortunate and I always preface every time I talk about the things that I've done. I always preface it by saying that I was very fortunate and very privileged to have been able to explore my curiosities in the ways that I have. I always try to lead with my curiosity and if there's something I'm passionate about, to see where it takes me to explore it without any preconceived notions, without any expectation of results, without saying it has to be this way. But to just see where it leads me. And that has really been the path with which I've walked my life. Ep. 100 - Grace Nikae: child prodigy, wanting to be "normal" and the freedom to change careers Previous editions here. Forwarded this and want to subscribe? Click here. |
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